When this happens, we often believe that the problem is that we have not thought enough. So we try to think more. We sit with the same question again and again. We look for the perfect reason, the perfect plan, the perfect guarantee. But sometimes more thinking does not bring more clarity. Sometimes it only makes the confusion louder.

This is because a decision is not made only by the mind. It is also made by the state we are in. If we are afraid, our mind will mostly see danger. If we feel trapped, our mind will mostly see walls. If we feel small, tired, or contracted, the future may look small too. Not because the future is truly small, but because we are looking at it from a closed place.

The central teaching is very simple: before we ask, "What should I choose?", we need to ask, "From what state am I choosing?" This question changes everything. It invites us to stop treating clarity as a mental problem and to begin seeing it as something connected to our whole being: body, emotion, energy, perception, and inner freedom.

The State We Choose From Matters

Every decision has an inner origin. Two people can make the same external choice, but from very different places inside. One person may leave a job because they are running away from fear. Another may leave because they feel a clear call toward a more honest life. One person may begin a relationship because they cannot be alone. Another may begin because love is truly opening in them. The action may look similar, but the inner movement is not the same.

This is why we need to become more sensitive to the state behind our decisions. A decision made from fear usually creates more fear. A decision made from shame often continues the same wound. A decision made only for comfort may make life easier for a while, but it may not bring real transformation. And a decision made from the creative center can open a new path that did not exist before.

In the webinar, this teaching is explained through three kinds of decisions. The first kind comes from pain. The second comes from comfort or pleasure. The third comes from the creative center. Understanding these three places can help us recognize what is really moving inside us when we are about to choose.

Decisions From Pain

A decision from pain is a decision that tries to escape an unpleasant feeling. The feeling may be fear, shame, anger, guilt, loneliness, scarcity, or pressure. We may not say it clearly, but inside there is often a hidden sentence: "If I fix this thing outside, I will stop feeling this pain inside."

Sometimes action is necessary. If a situation is harmful, dishonest, or truly not right for us, we may need to leave, speak, change, or protect ourselves. This is important. The point is not to stay in places that hurt us. The point is to notice whether the decision is coming from clarity or from reaction.

When pain is the one choosing, we are often not moving toward freedom. We are only moving away from discomfort. We may leave one situation, but carry the same wound into the next one. We may change the outside form of life, but repeat the same emotional pattern. We may think we are choosing peace, but actually we are choosing from panic.

This is why pain-based decisions can feel urgent. They want an answer now. They want relief now. They do not want to wait, breathe, feel, or look deeper. They say, "Do something quickly, so this feeling stops." But if we obey that voice too fast, we may create another situation that carries the same pain in a different costume.

The invitation is not to reject pain. Pain is not bad. Pain can be a messenger. It can show us where something needs attention. But pain should not be the only part of us allowed to make the decision. We can listen to it, care for it, and still wait until a deeper place in us becomes available.

Decisions From Comfort

The second kind of decision comes from comfort or pleasure. These decisions are also not bad. They may help us rest, simplify life, enjoy more, feel safer, or create more ease. Many good things in life come from this level. We choose a better routine, a nicer home, a more peaceful rhythm, a healthier environment, or a simpler way of working.

But comfort has a limit. Comfort can improve the life we already have, but it does not always create a new life. It can make the old path softer, but it may not open a new path. It can make the room more beautiful, but it may not take us out of the room.

This is very important when we are facing a big decision. If we only ask, "What feels easier?", we may choose the option that keeps us safe, but not alive. We may choose what reduces friction, but not what awakens the deeper call. We may choose what maintains control, but not what brings growth.

A life based only on comfort can slowly become small. Nothing terrible may be happening. Everything may look acceptable. But the energy of the new is missing. There is no adventure, no expansion, no real movement toward the person we are becoming. We are not in pain, but we are not fully alive either.

Comfort is useful. We need rest. We need tenderness. We need moments where life is simple and kind. But when the soul asks for transformation, comfort alone cannot guide us. For that, we need the creative center.

Decisions From The Creative Center

A decision from the creative center is different. It is not mainly trying to escape pain, and it is not mainly trying to preserve comfort. It comes from the desire to bring something new into life. It may feel like a call, a spark, a quiet excitement, a possibility, or a direction that has not yet become real.

This kind of decision may not be fully logical at first. It may not give us a perfect map. It may not promise control. In fact, the creative decision often asks us to step into something we cannot completely predict. That is why it can feel both alive and uncomfortable. It carries the energy of the new, and the new cannot be fully controlled.

Artists know this state well. A musician does not create a true song only from comfort. A writer does not write something alive only by trying to avoid fear. A painter does not paint a real work of beauty by staying completely safe. Creation asks for another state. It asks for openness, sensitivity, courage, and contact with something that wants to move through us.

The same is true with life decisions. To choose a new path, we need access to the part of us that can perceive the new. If that part is asleep, the creative option may be right in front of us and still remain invisible.

This is one of the most important ideas from the webinar: if we are not in a creative state, we cannot see the creative possibility. It is not that the creative option looks difficult. It is not that we simply have resistance to it. We may literally not perceive it. Our state decides what becomes visible.

Why Thinking More Can Keep Us Stuck

Most of us were taught to solve important questions by thinking. Thinking is useful. We need the mind. We need reflection, planning, and practical intelligence. But the mind can only work with what it can see. If our state is closed, the mind will make calculations inside a closed field.

Imagine trying to choose a path while standing inside a dark room. You can think very hard about where the door might be, but if there is no light, your thinking is limited. You may become more tense, more tired, and more frustrated. What you need first is not more effort. You need light.

The same happens inside us. If we are in fear and we think for hours, fear colors the thinking. If we are in scarcity, the mind finds reasons why there is not enough. If we are in guilt, the mind looks for punishment. If we are in habit, the mind repeats what it already knows. This is why thinking from the same state often gives us more of the same state.

There is a moment when the wise thing is not to continue thinking. The wise thing is to change state. This does not mean avoiding the decision. It means preparing ourselves to see it from a better place.

Before a big decision, the most important question may be very simple: "How am I right now?" Am I open or closed? Am I alive or flat? Am I choosing from fear, from comfort, or from creativity? Am I trying to escape something, preserve something, or create something true?

These questions do not give us the final answer immediately. But they show us whether we are ready to decide.

The Creative State Is A Living State

A creative state is not something strange or mystical in a complicated way. It is a living state. The body is awake. The emotions are moving. Expression is possible. We are not frozen inside ourselves. We are not only in the head. We are connected to life.

The webinar uses the image of the child to explain this. A child is naturally vital. A child moves, feels, expresses, asks, plays, reaches, laughs, cries, and begins again. A child does not need to create a long argument to know that they want to run toward something interesting. Life moves in them, and they respond.

Of course, as adults we need more maturity. We cannot simply follow every impulse. We have responsibilities, relationships, money, work, and consequences to consider. But we can learn from the child's state of aliveness. We can remember that clarity is not born only from control. Sometimes clarity comes when life is allowed to move again.

When we are in a creative state, perception changes. We may see an option that was hidden before. We may feel courage where before there was only heaviness. We may understand that the real question is not the one we were asking. We may suddenly know that the answer is simpler than we thought.

This does not mean that every decision becomes easy. It means that we are no longer trying to choose from a contracted place. We are choosing with more of ourselves present.

The Three Keys: Body, Emotion, And Expression

The webinar offers three simple keys for entering this creative state: vital activation, emotional activation, and free expression. These words may sound big, but the experience is very simple.

Vital activation means waking up the body. When the body is asleep, tense, or flat, the mind often becomes heavy too. A simple walk, deep breathing, stretching, dancing, training, or moving outside can begin to change the inner atmosphere. The body is not separate from clarity. Very often, when the body begins to move, life begins to move again inside the mind.

Emotional activation means allowing ourselves to feel. Many people try to make decisions while keeping their emotions locked away. They want to be rational, calm, and correct, so they push emotion down. But emotion is energy. If we block all emotion, we also block a large part of our creative intelligence.

To be emotionally active does not mean to be dramatic. It does not mean to explode or drown in feeling. It means to honestly notice what is alive inside. Fear may be there. Desire may be there. Sadness, anger, hope, love, excitement, tenderness, or grief may be there. When we allow the emotion to breathe, it becomes information and energy. It stops being a hidden force that controls us from the dark.

Free expression is the third key. This means letting what is inside move outward in a healthy way. We can write, speak, sing, pray, move, draw, cry, shake, or tell the truth out loud. The form is personal. What matters is that the inner pressure begins to flow instead of staying trapped.

When these three things come together, something opens. The body is awake, the emotions are alive, and expression is moving. We are no longer only a head trying to solve a problem. We become a whole person meeting life.

A Simple Way To Practice Before A Decision

Before making an important decision, we can create a small practice. It does not need to be complicated. It can take twenty minutes, one hour, or a whole day, depending on the size of the decision and the time we have.

First, pause and name your state. You might say, "I am afraid," or "I am tired," or "I feel pressure," or "I want to please everyone," or "I feel something new calling me." This first step already brings honesty. It helps us see who is about to choose.

Then wake up the body. Go for a walk. Breathe deeply. Stretch. Move your arms and legs. Let the body become warmer and more present. Do not do it as a performance. Do it as a way of returning to life.

After that, listen to the emotions. Ask yourself what you really feel about the decision. Not what you should feel. Not what looks spiritual, intelligent, or acceptable. What is actually there? Let it be simple. Let it be honest.

Then express something. Write a page in a notebook without trying to be beautiful. Speak out loud as if you were talking to a trusted friend. Pray if prayer is natural for you. Move if the body wants to move. The goal is not to find the perfect sentence. The goal is to let the inner world breathe.

Only after this, return to the decision. Look again. Ask: what choice feels more alive? What choice opens the future? What choice brings me closer to the person I am becoming? What choice is only trying to escape pain? What choice is only trying to preserve comfort? What choice carries the energy of the new?

The answer may not always arrive like lightning. Sometimes it comes as a small relaxation in the body. Sometimes as a clear no. Sometimes as a quiet yes. Sometimes as a new question. But even then, something has changed. You are no longer looking from the same closed state.

The Path Can Create The Answer

One beautiful idea from the webinar is the example of pilgrimage. In ancient times, when people needed guidance, they often went on a journey. They did not only sit in one place thinking. They walked. They prayed. They made effort. They met people. They slept in new places. They carried an intention. They allowed the path to change them.

The answer was not only waiting at the end of the road. The road itself prepared them to receive the answer. By the time they arrived at the sacred place, they were not the same person who had begun the journey. Their body had moved. Their emotions had opened. Their perception had changed.

This is a powerful teaching for everyday life. Sometimes we want clarity before we move, but movement may be the thing that creates clarity. We want to know the answer before entering the path, but sometimes the answer appears because we enter the path.

This does not mean we should be careless. It means that life is not solved only by thinking from a chair. Sometimes we need to walk, speak, breathe, feel, create, travel, pray, or take a first honest step. The path can awaken the part of us that knows.

Choosing From The Part Of You That Can Create

An aligned decision is not always the easiest decision. It is not always the most comfortable one, and it is not always the one that removes fear immediately. But it has a different quality. It feels connected to life. It feels more honest. It may ask for courage, but it also brings energy.

When a decision comes from the creative center, it often carries a sense of expansion. There may still be uncertainty, but the uncertainty is alive. There may still be effort, but the effort has meaning. There may still be fear, but fear is no longer the leader.

This is why changing state matters so much. We are not trying to become perfect before deciding. We are simply trying to make sure that fear, pain, habit, or comfort are not the only voices in the room. We are inviting the creative part of us to enter the conversation.

That creative part may be quiet at first. It may speak through the body, through a feeling, through an image, through a sudden memory, through a small sense of yes or no. We need to become available to it. We need to give it space.

Change Your State, Then Look Again

If you are facing an important decision and you feel confused, do not attack yourself. Confusion is not a failure. It may simply mean that you are trying to see a new path from an old state.

Instead of forcing the answer, begin by changing the state from which you are looking. Wake up the body. Let the emotions breathe. Express what has been held inside. Give yourself a little space from the pressure to decide immediately.

Then look again.

Maybe the path will be clearer. Maybe one option will feel less true. Maybe another will begin to shine. Maybe you will realize that the real decision is not the one you thought you had to make.

The important thing is this: your perception changes when your energy changes. And when your perception changes, your decisions change too.

So before a big decision, do not only think more. Become more alive. Enter a creative state. Let your body wake up, let your heart speak, let expression move through you.

From that place, clarity is not something you chase.

It is something that can finally meet you.

We have all been there. We have these situations where we yell at the people we love, we get into fights with important people in our lives, or we just fight over silly things. Sometimes, we explode emotionally without any real justification.

Other times, we stop ourselves. We sabotage what we are doing with negative, destructive thoughts, undervaluing the beautiful things in our lives or our projects. Or perhaps we pour our energy into addictions—food, tobacco, drinks—wondering why our energy manifests destructively and feeling like we can’t do anything to stop it.

But before we go any further, I want you to know one thing: You are not broken.

Thinking “I am broken,” “I am doomed,” or “everything I do is wrong” is just another negative, destructive pattern.

The truth is much simpler. The only thing happening is that you have an excess. You have an excess of creative energy that you are not using. Destructive patterns simply feed on the creative energy that we are holding back due to fear and blocks.

Your Gifts Are Not for You

Now, what does this river have to do with you?

Every single one of you has a gift. You have gifts and talents that you received from God, from life itself. We all have them.

But what exactly are these gifts?

• For some, it is intelligence.
• For others, it is fire—a strength and confidence to do things in this world, an incredible vitality.
• Some have the gift of consciousness, the ability to see the truth of what is happening.
• Others are masters of beauty.
• Some have an innocent heart that never judges, that forgives with deep compassion.
• Some have a strong, resistant body, a physical power to achieve great things.
• And some have the gift of humor, bringing joy to the spirit.

Whatever your gift is, imagine it is that river of energy flowing toward you. It is a faucet you cannot turn off. Just like the water from the mountain snows never stops coming, this energy never stops coming to you.

But here is the key you must understand: These gifts are not for you. They are for you to give.

In fact, you often cannot even recognize you have a gift until you give it away. That is why a person who is naturally extremely strong, confident, and full of fire might actually feel weak. Why? Because they aren’t expressing their great gift.

We usually have our biggest blocks right where we have our biggest gifts.

Think about it. Imagine you have that internal fire—the energy of a warrior. But you live in a world conditioned for a quiet, comfortable life where the only goal is simple survival. If your life is just going to the office, going to the supermarket, and maintaining a routine, you cannot express that quality. That fire screams to be put into a great battle, a great project.

Or imagine your gift is creativity. It is screaming at you to create something new, something incredible. But if you are in an environment that is rigid, hermetic, or stuck in old habits, that creativity has no space to get out.

And so, the river gets cut off. The energy accumulates, and accumulates, and accumulates… until it becomes too much.

Why “Managing Emotions” Doesn’t Work

So, how do we solve this? Or rather, why does everyone fail when they try to solve it?

The reason is simple: Everyone tries to manage the consequence.

You tell yourself: “I have to manage this conflict. I have to manage my emotions. I have to manage my intensity, my fear, my anger.”

But the truth is, it is unmanageable. You cannot manage it.

Once your energy has been invested in fear, conflict, frustration, or anger, and it grows enough… you can no longer control it. It dominates you. It covers you. You act based on it. It is almost as if you are possessed by that destructive energy.

And that is when the destructive attitudes come: the fights, the judgments, the negative internal dialogue, the self-sabotage.

Trying to stop the flood after the dam has broken is impossible. You are working at the wrong level.

The 3 Levels of Healing

So, how do we actually work with this?

We can work on three levels. It is super important that you understand these and apply them in your life.

This process of redirecting your energy to a place where it can be expressed takes time. Sometimes, you need to restructure your life. You need to change habits. You need to try new things, invent new projects, and—crucially—you have to “let go” of some things.

It is a profound transformation process, and most people skip it because it’s hard. But here is the roadmap:

Level 1 & 2: The Deep Work

These two go hand in hand, and they are the foundation.

• Identify your gift. You need to find that specific quality (fire, beauty, intellect, etc.) that flows through you.
• Create a space to express it. You must create a project, an environment, or a place in your life where that energy can be redirected.

If you have a creative gift but believe “I have to be a farmer like my father” or “I don’t want to hurt my family by doing something different,” that is your block. You have to dissolve those beliefs to create that space.

Level 3: The Bridge (Energy Alchemy)

Now, what do you do while you are building that new life? What do you do while you are transforming?

You still have that “stagnant water”—the anger, the frustration, the negative self-talk.

This is where Energy Alchemy comes in. You need practical support to handle the destructive energy right now. You do this through spiritual practices:

• Meditation
• Breathwork
• Hikes and walks in nature
• Rituals (like using the drum)
• Ocean baths

These aren’t just for relaxation. Their purpose is to transform heavy, destructive energy (lead) into light, constructive energy (gold). They return you to a state of inspiration and clarity so you can see what is blocking you and keep moving forward.

The Invitation to Transform

This is the great transformation—the secret that almost nobody tells you. Everyone works on the level of the “situation,” trying to fix the fight or the bad habit. Very few people work at the higher level of how you are redirecting your energy.

You can read about this, but to truly heal, you often need to step out of your current environment and experience it.

If you want to take this journey, we are traveling to La Gomera for our next retreat.

In this retreat, we are going to do exactly what we have discussed here, but we are going to do it with our bodies and souls, not just our minds.

Over the course of 6 days and 5 nights on this incredible volcanic island, we are going to:

• Reconnect with nature: We will hike in the mountains, meditate in ancient forests, and swim in the ocean.
• Experience the alchemy: We will connect with dolphins and use powerful practices to transform that negative, heavy energy into something light and vital.
• Find your clarity: You will leave understanding exactly what your gift is and, just as importantly, what specific fear or block has been stopping you from expressing it.

This trip is a gift you give to yourself. It is an escape from the tension, the conflict, and the fear. No one can just “tell” you this truth; you have to feel the process of energy alchemy within yourself. You will be amazed at the shift.

You will finally understand the missing element needed to escape these destructive cycles forever.

Join us in La Gomera (February 2026).

Don’t miss this opportunity to change your life’s flow from a flood into a river.

Reserve your spot here: InnerSpark Life – La Gomera 2026

At a very young age, something strange happens to all of us. We start to believe that life is about doing things we *have* to do. Not what we want, not what we feel… but what’s expected.

It’s like there’s this invisible voice saying: *“You must do this to be good. You must do that to be accepted.”* And we buy into it, because we’re just kids. We want love, safety, and belonging. So we trade our natural spontaneity for approval.

Instead of playing, exploring, and acting from joy, we start performing. We do what we’re supposed to do. We become little robots, checking boxes we didn’t choose.

And from there, life becomes a long to-do list. One obligation after another. We do what we’re told, what society values, what our parents or teachers said was “right.”

This is how most of us fall into a life of compulsive action. We get used to acting out of fear—fear of being judged, rejected, or left behind. And without even noticing, we begin living on autopilot.

What Compulsive Action Feels Like (And Why It’s So Draining)

If you’ve ever felt like your days are full but your heart is empty, you know this feeling.

You’re doing things, crossing tasks off your list, but something’s off. It’s like you’re moving, but not really living. There’s no juice. No spark. No you in the doing.

That’s what compulsive action feels like. It’s mechanical. Meaningless. It leaves you tired, disconnected, and uninspired.

Even when we set spiritual goals or try to “improve” ourselves, we often fall into the same trap. We meditate or journal or exercise—not because we feel moved to—but because we think we should. It becomes just another performance.

This pattern goes deep. It’s a habit carved over years. And the more we try to force our way out of it, the tighter it holds us.

So how do we break the cycle? How do we move from doing out of obligation to acting with inspiration and purpose?

It all starts with balance. And I discovered that balance in the most unexpected place: inside the rhythm of a spiritual retreat.

The 3 Keys to Inspired Action: What I Learned on Retreat

I didn’t learn this in a book or podcast. I learned it through real experience—by spending time in retreats with my teacher, immersed in a totally different rhythm of life. And in every one of those retreats, I noticed something powerful:

They were always designed with a perfect mix of three elements:

• 33% Effort
• 33% Rest
• 33% Celebration

This rhythm isn’t random—it’s medicine. And when I started applying it in my own life (and in the retreats I now guide), everything changed.

Let me break it down for you:

1. Effort: Channeling Energy with Purpose

One-third of the retreat was dedicated to focused effort. Not the exhausting, stressful kind of effort we’re used to. This was conscious, intentional, and energizing.

We hiked through nature. We practiced breathing techniques. We woke up early and moved our bodies. We fasted, took cold dips in rivers, did yoga, and challenged our edges—always with presence.

This kind of effort brings clarity. It burns through mental fog and reconnects us with our power. It’s not about forcing—it’s about engaging.

When you move your body with intention, your energy opens. Ideas start flowing. Your inner fire wakes up. Effort, when used consciously, becomes a bridge to inspiration.

2. Rest: The Space Where Inspiration Is Born

Another third of the retreat was pure rest. And I mean *real* rest—not scrolling on your phone or zoning out in front of a screen.

I’m talking about lying in the grass under a tree, taking long naps, doing absolutely nothing without guilt. Time just to be, to breathe, to listen inwardly.

At first, many people resist this part. We’re so programmed to “be productive” all the time that resting feels like wasting time. But it’s actually the opposite.

Rest is where the magic happens.

When the mind softens, the heart opens. When we stop “trying,” ideas start landing. Creativity bubbles up, unforced. This is the space where inspiration comes knocking—when we least expect it.

Without rest, our system burns out. We can’t hear the voice of intuition. So if you feel disconnected or uninspired, ask yourself: *Have I truly rested lately?*

3. Celebration: The Fuel of the Soul

The last third of our time was all about joy. Connection. Celebration. Sharing meals. Laughing together. Telling stories. Swimming in the ocean. Drinking coffee under the sun. Watching a movie and crying with friends.

This part might seem “unnecessary” to some. But it’s actually essential.

We are not machines. We are emotional, relational beings. And we need to feel love, playfulness, and connection to stay inspired.

Celebration reminds us what we’re doing all this inner work for. It fills our hearts. It nourishes our spirit. And from that fullness… creativity flows like a river.

If you skip this part, your life becomes a dry routine—even if you’re doing “all the right things.”

Bringing It All Together: How to Reclaim Inspired Action in Daily Life

After a few days living in this rhythm—effort, rest, and celebration—I always feel it: the spark. My mind lights up with ideas. My body feels alive. My heart is open. I can’t wait to create, to build, to express.

And it’s not just me. Everyone on the retreat feels it too. There’s laughter, energy, vision. We all remember who we really are: creative, inspired, purposeful beings.

This is why I started weaving this balance into my everyday life—and why I now teach it in my own retreats and workshops. Because this is the secret sauce. Not hustle. Not pressure. Not perfection.

Just the right rhythm of doing, resting, and enjoying.

So ask yourself:

• Am I always pushing, but never stopping to rest?
• Do I forget to celebrate and connect with people I love?
• Is my creativity dry because I’m trying too hard—or not letting myself play?

We’ve been trained to believe that slowing down is lazy, and celebrating is indulgent. But it’s a lie. Those things are fuel. They’re what keep your inspiration alive.

So if you’re ready to step out of compulsive doing and into inspired living… start here. Bring these three elements into your week. Even a small shift makes a huge difference.

And if you want to experience it in full depth, come join one of our upcoming retreats. After a few days, you’ll feel the shift for yourself—and you’ll know exactly how to access that state anytime, anywhere.

For a life full of inspired action and true purpose.

Namasté